Perspective: Right Now Someone You Know

I was very moved by Danny Brown’s post on how precious our time is, not just the story itself but also touched by his chops to put it out there for the world to see.

It’s not me.

Being motivational as an introvert is hard.ย Figuring out who I am as a blogger, whatย my voice is – and another trackback to Danny, heh – I know my limits. I’m authentic but I don’t get too personal, too private.

Sappy is not in my wheelhouse. With the exception of condolences and sympathies, you’re getting a funny greeting card. If you’re lucky. Usually it’s something cleverly snarky, via Someecards.

Sentimental barely in my vocabulary. Now I do scrapbook on occassion and am something of a pack rat but don’t wax maudlin on birthdays, don’t get too up or down on holidays.

My self-help guide is Despair, the purveyors of the Demotivatorsยฎ I share so often, gave as calendars for Christmas.

That right there is part of the problem, that was all about me and nothing about you. IDK this little preamble is a way trying to see if I can offer more than just marketing and PR, social media and blogging advice. Can I surprise my readers while respecting my blogging niche, yet still deliver something of value?

Thinking about others, a little perspective. DO you know?

  • Right now someone you know is having a great day.
    • Right now someone you know is having a crappy day.
  • Right now someone you know feels liberated.
  • Right now someone you know is celebrating.
    • Right now someone you know is grieving.
  • Right now someone you know is doing something.
    • Right now someone you know is slacking off, drinking wine, shirking her work and noble blogging duties for her TV show obsessions. Ahem.
  • Right now someone you “know” is tweeting.
    • Right now someone you know thinks Twitter is stupid.

Maybe it is in me?

A brilliant conclusion escapes me as I think this was one of the fastest and easiest posts I’ve ever written. Only thing to do is ask for comments, see what you think.

Photo credit: Cheezburger, cute cat + clever saying = win.

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22 thoughts on “Perspective: Right Now Someone You Know

  1. I love this. I on the other hand have the crusty exterior and the giant sappy nougat center. But it’s not easy to crack through. Lifetime movies, weepies, etc., will never penetrate.

    I’m thrilled every time I read your blog and see the crowd you’ve attracted. Great work, my friend!

    1. Jenn, I kinda hate chick flicks; if I’m in a snit I just snark them to pieces.. I rarely if ever even watch any of the ovary channels. ๐Ÿ˜‰ This is as sappy as I get with the disclosure that I am not about deep, meaningful posts… but something cracked that protective candy coating and I said ‘what the hell’ and published it.

      Keeping things in perspective, I get that for every person I’ve attracted to this blog (for which I am so grateful) there are hundreds more who think blogging just a waste of time, blah blah. And from their perspective, I can’t say that they are wrong. Blogging and tweeting are right for me, from my perspective. Crap, did I just dive a little deeper there? Didn’t mean to do that, FWIW.

    1. I really don’t have a sappy, sentimental side Mark. It’s like that scene in the Birdcage, Robin Williams does all these crazy dance moves then instructs “but you keep it all inside.” Heh.

      That’s me, I don’t delve too deep, don’t venture too far outside my comfort zone, very much respect that personal vs. professional line. Which is not to say I am not human, not personable and social.. just nothing I share too often. FWIW.

    1. Hmm.. I am seeing a picture here. Are you signed up at Gravatar with your login email? Another thing, the comments were by two different emails or logins, maybe that’s it?

        1. Hmm. I’ve signed in via Twitter elsewhere, but maybe it’s because I have the same picture for all the profiles. I also just changed something on that plugin, see if it gives different pictures in the future. Thanks.

  2. Hi Davina, this is my first time over at 3hats, followed you over from The Sales Lion, and A Spark Starts. And I’m glad I did.

    It’s handy that the first post I read of yours is a deeply personal one, as I feel I’ve learned a fair bit about you already!

    Regarding the theme here, I believe that every single emotion we can possibly think of, is currently being felt and expressed by someone out there in the world.

    Someone right now is crying their heart out
    Someone is contemplating suicide
    Someone is seeing their first child being born
    Someone is swerving to avoid hitting a dog
    Someone is meeting an old and dear friend after 25 years
    Someone is laughing so hard they pee a little
    Someone is reading this blog post

    All this, and so much more, is happening in the world RIGHT NOW. Does that make you wonder? It makes me wonder about the world we live in, and about how I suddenly feel like I want to give every single person on this planet a big hug to show my love. Impossible, but if I start now… ๐Ÿ˜‰
    Stuart Mills recently posted..theunlockeddoor- The Social Network- Lessons Learned From The Movie Samuel shares his wisdom http-tco-HoYN0Ka via @@megabizflakes

    1. Stuart, What a comment, thanks! It was just one of those days, when I have to remind myself when getting frustrated with this project or annoyed by that call, or excited about something when the other person isn’t.. it’s all perspective. Maybe that person is having a bad to my good day, maybe what’s so important to me isn’t to them.

      That all by way of how much, how well do we really ‘know’ each other, even via social media? I’m surprised sometimes at the more ‘personal’ reveals of folks in my circles: illnesses, losses, gains, locations and past experiences, you name it.. even reading someone likes this show or is a vegetarian. So I do start to wonder and then realize, respect that we know what is shared .. gotta pay attention to the rest, keep it in perspective. FWIW.

  3. Great post! You are so right that it’s all about perspective. Everyone is dealing with different things and doing different things, but we’re all often doing the best we can. I think a blog with many purposes is totally possible, because really it’s about who you are. Thanks for sharing your perspective. =)

    1. Sorry for the late reply Melanie, spam blocker fail. Gotta get that fixed!

      IDK what prompted this, other than I was about to take my frustrations out on someone via email or Twitter, about something. Then I was like.. uh, what do I really KNOW about them, their day, their business, etc. I of course stopped, reassessed and dealt w/ it as a pro. Then wrote a post, thanks for sharing your thoughts.

  4. I thought I was the only person who loved to look at the posters on Do you think it is strange that I find humor at the expense of others? ๐Ÿ™‚

    I have found that by putting myself in the story people can generally relate to me on a deeper level. Therefore I go from being just another blog with a list of tips to a person that they can get to know and establish a relationship with. But, every person is different and that is the balance that the world needs. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Also if you love despair. you have to check out
    Frank recently posted..Get These Chains Off of Me!

    1. I wish I had more time for failblog Frank, I could lose hours there I am sure, along with People of Walmart, Oatmeal and Despair. Only I’m not laughing at others, laughing along with them as I’ve lived it, enough of that Dilbert life to share in everyone’s pain. But at least can still see the humor. ๐Ÿ˜‰

      It’s all about the focus of the blog, the kinds of relationships we want to build. My blog has many purposes: it’s about business, for business, hopefully more business for me; it IS about relationships and networking, no doubt about that; this IS part of my resume, my social media portfolio and WYSIWYG. I am working on a balance of posts, trying to add more when I can, thanks.

        1. You have EXCELLENT manners Frank and are most welcome as I really thought that post was so well written. I’m always worried I miss link backs, just cannot get that incoming link thing to work right so I’ve set up a ton of Google alerts just in case. ๐Ÿ˜‰

  5. Ah, getting inside the head of Davina Brewer…and what a ride it is for anyone brave enough to jump on board ๐Ÿ˜‰

    Well, you know how I feel about this already Davina– just be you, whatever that is. If you can write about a subject and lean on life experience, then awesome. Do it. But regardless, you’re stuff is going to make me laugh and smile, so it shall be read ๐Ÿ˜‰

    Thanks for giving me a few grins this Monday morning!

    Marcus Sheridan-The Sales Lion recently posted..Gutsy Bloggers and the Amazing Power of Opinion

    1. Marcus, First.. apologies for the techical difficulties. What can I tell ya, I know just enough about all this technobabble to be dangerous.

      Second, we can only be ourselves. I can write what I know, what I feel at a particular moment. So I commend your bravery, thanks. Glad this post made you smile, laugh.. was afraid it was too much whiney, cry-baby ennui or self-help blah. ๐Ÿ˜‰

      Your post title looks interesting, look forward to it.

  6. Davina Davina Davina, I didn’t get this about you at all – you mean to tell me you’re an INTROVERT!?!? I swear when you arrive at a party (at Life,forinstance in particular, but at others too) it’s like a huge burst of energy enters the room! You’re here and there, talking with everyone around the room, hardly the behavior of an introvert! You make a blog come alive!

    I kind of have your problem in reverse. You say you’d like to do personal connecting but you have a business blog and how to do that (Kudos to Danny for doing it so well, but we’re not all Danny Browns or Marcuses or wait – there are a few who do this well, which is not to say it’s easy.) My problem is I have a social blog but part of me wants to talk about blogging!

    The solution: I do the personal thing on my blog and talk blogging etc. in my comments on other blogs. It’s not a black and white distinction – sometimes it gets personal. Heck – it’s hard not to let it get personal since it is a person hitting the keys! (Did I just contradict myself? :o)

    Let me conclude (please!) by saying I noticed you on other blogs because you were mingling and I liked that and I liked how you โ€œLikedโ€ other comments (you actually read them!) and how you talked to me. Don’t change ANYHING! You’re doing a great job just being you!
    Lori Gosselin recently posted..Overwhelmed- How to Push Your Reset Button

    1. Lori, I am shy; I’m that guest at parties b/c I help out in the kitchen b/c it’s doing something and limits how much time I’d be standing on walls. ๐Ÿ˜‰

      IDK Maybe I am a closet extrovert, but it only comes out when I know someone well, when I hit that comfort level.. or like now, I’m discussing what I think I know so I feel safe and secure being more myself. Knowledge and passion for a subject make a difference; meaning of life or taboos like politics, I’ll clam up and see if the host needs help with the wine; if you were planning a trip to WDW, I’d talk your ear off with tips.

      Being a crusty old vet of the Interwebs and forums, BBS chat rooms thing, I learned some old courtesy rules that stuck w/ me: if someone takes the time to write or post, you should take the time to review at least SOME of what’s been written before diving in w/ your own brilliance. I mean we want others to read, reply to our comments too, right. Have you commented on a blog, said something you thought great but it sorta went ignored.. only to have someone else say practically the same thing, get praised by the blog owner etc.? So anyway, that’s my style and an unfortunate thing for me as I’m always late to the party, I have that many more comments to scan/read. FWIW.

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