Been reading the likes of Mitch Joel, Gini Dietrich, Danny Brown for a while. Lots of discussion on commenting and community, echoey chambers and debate.
The Exceptional Debate
Last week Marcus Sheridan called bullshit on some BlogWorld hypocrisy. Folks REALLY disagreed and debated; some of the most respectful, intelligent, witty and engaged discussion you’re likely to read.. some 350 comments strong. Why? Because as Jayme Soulati puts it, his blog community makes commenters feel comfy.
Not every post is as hot-button as a debate on Twitter snobbery or blog title censorship, so they’re not all gonna fan the flames and get folks aTwitter; posts like this are the exception.
Paul Wolfe wants to stop the Comment love-ins. “By not posting my disagreements, I’m not only being dishonest with myself. I’m also not contributing to others.”
Bill Dorman asked if someone writes a stinker of a blog post, do we say so? “Your esteemed group is thinking ‘what is that smell’, but these are all your buds, they don’t want to call you out; they are too polite.”
I tell you what I think.. but I gotta admit, I don’t always disagree or call out a ‘bad’ post. When I do disagree, I ease into it with what I do agree then some sort ‘variable mileage’ fence sitting.
Why do I sometimes pull my punches?
- I like my friends. They’re nice, they’re fun, their as apt to have an off post as am I.
- I like my friends’ influence. A good RT of one of my posts might get me a few extra views and comments, not that I’m counting.
- Confidence and experience. Be nice to have some and while I’m fairly smart, I don’t thave the wealth of experience that many of my fellow debaters do. Fear of writing something epically lame, you’d think I’d be over that.
- I don’t know or care or can’t decide. If it doesn’t move my furniture, no need to mix it up. Rants aside, confrontation is not in my nature.
- I’m not the boss of you. (Though really, I should be.) I am the last person to appreciate others telling me how to do something, so I try not to presume or go visiting their intentions either.
- Can’t construct a contribution. That’s the biggie, when I can’t word my dissent into something helpful, something that adds value more than, “that sucked.”
Do you put up or shut up? What keeps you from disagreeing in comments, calling out a bad post?
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